Harnesses

How to Attach a Giant Dildo to a Strap-on Harness

IMPORTANT UPDATE: Since writing this guide, Tantus has released a silicone O-ring set that includes 2.22” and 2.5” diameter O-rings. I strongly recommend using this O-ring set, as these two O-rings will fit most giant dildos and give you vastly more stability than the method described below.

One of the top reader questions I receive is: “How can I strap a giant dildo on to a strap-on harness?” This is a common question because most harnesses can’t equip anything larger than a 2-inch diameter dildo, plus finding a rubber O-ring for that size can be a challenge. Fortunately, there’s a cheap and easy solution available at your nearest Target:

Cheap elastic hair ties can also be used as a functional strap-on harness O-ring. I bought the pack pictured here for about $5 from Target’s hair accessories aisle. Wearing a large dildo is as easy as slipping a hair tie around the toy and attaching it to your harness like you would an O-ring. It’s that simple.

This is the silliest picture I’ve ever taken, but it illustrates how easy and effective a solution hair ties are when you want to strap on a girthy dildo. The can of beans pictured here has a 3-inch diameter, which is a half-inch larger than the girth of the popular giant, Randy. With this set up, you should have no problems equipping a monster cock.

Of course, having a harness big and versatile enough to hold a giant dildo is another problem entirely. Pictured here is the Terra Firma Harness, which is a personal favorite and top recommendation of mine. Thanks to the Terra Firma’s unique strap system and interchangeable O-ring, you can equip dildos of any shape and size. Whether it’s a giant dildo or a dildo with giant balls, the Terra Firma harness will provide a secure and stable fit for it. Highly recommended for strap-on users who are into large and unusually-shaped dildos.

Black Friday Deal: Terra Firma Harness for only $39.99

Here’s another Black Friday deal that warrants its own separate post because it’s so damn good: The Terra Firma Harness is only $39.99 at The Stockroom. This is one of my Top 3 Favorite Harnesses of all time and gets a ton of action in my bedroom. If you like using dildos that are huge and/or have giant balls, then this is the harness to use. Thanks to the adjustable O-ring and the unique strap system, you can strap any crazy dildo you want on to this harness, and it will stay extremely stable no matter how wild your movements. It’s my #1 recommendation by far to anyone who likes using unusual dildos, unusual sex positions, or very hard thrusting. It’s also one of my top recommendations for a beginner harness. The Terra Firma is my “old reliable” and she has never let me down.

I’ve never seen the Terra Firma this cheap ever (The Stockroom normally sells them for $68.95), so grab this deal before they sell out!

Flash Sale: $36 Off the SpareParts Joque Harness

Hurry! Babeland is having a Flash Sale on the SpareParts Joque Harness: $36 off! The sale ends November 28 at 12 am PST / 3 am EST or “while supplies last.” That’s a little over 24 hours left, so if you have any interest at all in this harness, get your orders in ASAP before they sell out!

The SpareParts Joque Harness is the top recommendation in my Best Plus-Size Harnesses Guide as well as a personal favorite of mine. It’s an extremely comfortable harness that is highly adjustable and fits your body like a glove. If you’re looking for a harness that you can wear underneath clothes for hours, the Joque Harness is the one to use. It really does feel like a second skin. But my favorite feature of all, however, are the strategically placed bullet vibrator pockets that provide extra stimulation to the harness-wearer. It’s certainly the most stimulating harness I own!

P.S. I’ll be doing a massive Black Friday sale round-up as we get closer to the date and as more sales are announced. Subscribe to my RSS or keep an eye on my Twitter to stay on top of the latest holiday sex store deals.

The Tantus Connoisseur Strap-on Harness Line: An Overview

The highly anticipated line of Tantus Connoisseur Harnesses has finally arrived! SheVibe just rolled out this new line of five premium leather harnesses, and man, do they look amazing! Their curves and patterns are unlike anything I’ve ever seen on a harness. Red spiderweb patterns? A “Nurse” harness? Oh, the roleplay possibilities! While I appreciate the simplicity of “traditional” solid black leather harnesses, I’m excited to see a fresh and fashionable update from a reputable company. Most impressive to me, though, is that three of these harnesses—the Nurse, Amazon, and EZ—will fit up to 60-inch hips. If you’ve ever taken a look at my Best Plus-Size Strap-ons Guide, you’ll notice that sleek and sexy leather harnesses are all but impossible to find in this size range. I applaud Tantus for adding three more sexy options to the plus-size harness market. The Connoisseur line certainly beats the competition in aesthetics.

As someone who has worn more strap-ons than I can count, I had to know more. After doing some research and exchanging a few emails with Tantus, here is my take on the new Connoisseur line.

Nurse Connoisseur Strap-On Harness

The Nurse Harness is a must-have for anyone into nurse roleplay and strap-ons. Make sure you pair it with a sexy nurse outfit to get the full effect.

A major concern I had about the Nurse, EZ, and Amazon harnesses (more on the other two later) is that they have a permanent O-ring that is 1½ inches in diameter. I mentioned to Jenna over at Tantus that I was concerned that dildos with a smaller diameter may not be stable with this setup. Jenna, however, put my concerns to rest with the following explanation and pictures:

“What you’ll want to watch is the size of the toy’s base, because you’ll want one that’s large enough that it won’t pull through the o-ring. I’d say any toy with a base of at least 2″ would work well. Both the Silk Medium & Silk Small would fall into this category.”

Here is the Nurse Harness with a the Silk Small Dildo (0.8 inch diameter):

Here is the view inside the Nurse Harness. Pictured here is the base of a black Silk Medium Dildo (1-inch diameter):

Even the tiny Silk Small looks like it’s in no danger of slipping out of position. Adjusting the harness so that it’s snug against the body should keep the dildo stable while thrusting. I am satisfied that this O-ring setup would meet most people’s needs, although people who want to use giant dildos or dildos with bulky bases should probably stick with the interchangeable O-ring on the Black Widow.

Black Widow Connoisseur Strap-On Harness

The Black Widow Harness is the other extremely memorable and distinctive harness of the bunch. I love the way the spiderweb in the back dips down just enough to accentuate the butt cheeks, but not far enough to cause discomfort. More important than aesthetics, though, is the interchangeable O-ring and the solid leather backing. This setup lets you equip a wider variety of dildo shapes and sizes than any other harness in the line. Do you like dildos that are monstrously huge or have giant balls? If so, then this is the Connoisseur harness that best suits your needs.

By the way, I’m dubbing Black Widow harness the “Superhero Harness” because the Black Widow name and look reminds me of a larger-than-life comic book character. Imagine the roleplay scenarios: Will you play the heroic mistress who punishes her foes, or the cruel villainess who tortures her prey?

Amazon Connoisseur Strap-On Harness

The wide Velcro belt on the Amazon Harness intrigues me. This strikes me as a comfortable harness that you can quickly throw on for spur-of-the-moment action. Velcro is very underrated and has an undeserved reputation of being “cheap.” Anyone who has ever worn a Velcro harness, though, will tell you that the Velcro will keep your harness snug and secure even if you run a marathon and do gymnastics in it. It’s more forgiving than buckles if you want a skintight grip, especially if you have an unusual body shape. It’s the main reason why I have faith that the permanent O-ring will work well on these harnesses: The easily adjustable Velcro will fit your body like a glove and keep that dildo base nice and snug against your body. UPDATE: Read my Amazon Harness Review for more detailed pictures and insight about this harness.

Nevada Connoisseur Strap-On Harness

The Nevada Harness is my favorite of the Connossieur line primarily because of the aesthetics. I love the brown leather accents, and am disappointed that I don’t get to see this color more often in harnesses or fetish wear. I love the curvy cut in the front and the slim buckles. What a gorgeous harness!

The adjustable O-ring is a nice bonus, but I still think the Black Widow’s leather backing makes it a better fit for those who want to use unusual dildos.

EZ Connoisseur Harness

The EZ Harness is the Nurse Harness without the cosmetic features. What I wrote above about permanent O-rings and Velcro applies here as well. It might not be as flashy as the other harnesses, but its simplicity is still sexy. It’s also about $30 cheaper than everything else in the line except the Nurse harness, which is the same price. A good value if you’re looking for a quality harness without all the glitz.

Which Connoisseur Harness is your favorite? If you own one, then please share your thoughts about it in the comments.

Thoughts Regarding the SpareParts Joque Harness

I received the following lovely reader comment and thought I would share my answer here in case anyone has similar questions regarding the SpareParts Joque Harness and Mustang Dildo.

Hello,

First of all I would like to thank you for this wonderful advisable website. You have done a great job.

I am a begginer (to intermediate) level of pegging. My first strapon kit was [Fetish Fantasy Harness and Vibrating Strap-On Kit] and to be honest in the beggining was quite good. However, since the time passed the harness is not really stable and can not keep the dildo stable.

I would like then to ask you, the Joque Strap-On Harness keeps dildos stable? And does the mustang dildo fit to Joque Harness? What is, in your opinion, the best matching in the sense of stability, control and real skin feeling dildo?

Thank you for the comment! Here are my answers to each of your questions:

1) Yes, the SpareParts Joque Harness will keep your dildo stable. You can see for yourself how stable the dildo remains while thrusting in this official commercial for the product (skip to 0:41 for thrusting action). The video does not contain porn or nudity.

2) Yes, the Mustang dildo fits in the Joque harness. The Joque can accommodate dildos up to two inches in diameter; the Mustang is 1.5 inches in diameter. Speaking from personal experience, the Mustang fits snug and secure inside this harness.

3) I think you’ll be satisfied with the Joque and Mustang combination. They’re both high quality products that will last a long time and provide the stability you’re looking for, so this combination gets my blessing. But if you’re interested in shopping around, here are a few more options:

Dildos: If you’re interested in the Mustang, give the Tex a look. If you’re looking for a dildo that feels like real skin, but doesn’t look like an anatomically-correct dick, then check out the Raquel. The Mustang, Tex, and Raquel are all produced by the same company and use the same VixSkin material.
Harnesses: The Terra Firma is my go-to harness for when I’m trying a new position and absolutely need that extra stability. Honestly, though, all of the harnesses I recommend in my guides perform very well and provide a satisfying amount of stability. I wouldn’t recommend them if they didn’t!